Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Parenting doesn't get any easier, that's for sure :)
As some of you may know, we are having a challenging time adjusting to Kindergarten! Alden is so smart and he is doing well in the academic parts of school (His frog is already on the number 4 lilly pad) but it's his "conduct" grade that will not be so good this first 9 weeks! I have really struggled about what to do about the number of white reminders that are being sent home. We are trying the "No playstation" rule if he gets moved to white (which is the same as red when we were young, but I guess white sounds better so they have green/light green/white) and we are trying the "Get x amount of days on Green and you get a prize" rule. And we try to address the exact problem the white reminder was sent home for like for playing at rest time, we practice by having a rest time at home. But really nothing seem to be working well. Which brings me to my dilema-Are the white reminders (that take 2 points off your conduct grade for each one) being given out too freely or am I being "that mom" that thinks her child can do no wrong? Now I know that Alden is not a perfect child. He is what we call "All boy" which means he is likes to make noises and run around and he loves to make people laugh. The last being the main reason he is getting white reminders. Let me give you the latest white reminder scenario and you can decide. Okay, yesterday at Alden's school they had a pep rally to kick off this Boosterthon Fun Run that they are doing (by the way if we haven't called you to see if you want to donate, you'll hear from us soon :) and I was there for most of it but I had to leave to go to Katlynn's school. While I was there, they guys were trying to pump the kids up with loud music and having them yell and sing and all the fun things to do at a pep rally. Well, sometime after I left, they had all the kids standing up and somehow Alden and four other boys were playing with a string of flags that were attached to a speaker. Now my first thought is "why is there a string of anything attached to a speaker within reach of Pre-K through first graders" but anyway with the playing the five boys were doing, somehow the speaker gets pulled over and hits a teacher on the head who then falls on two other students before she has to leave to go to the doctor to get her head checked out. Needless to say, not what you want to be told as you are picking your son up. Well, when we talked to Alden he said he didn't pull it but he was touching it (how convenient right) and he said the teacher wasn't watching or it won't have hit her. So we explained that watching for falling speaker is not what a teacher should have to do and we followed through with the no playstation for the rest of the day and made him take a rest when he got home. He, of course, was upset and his next response is what made me stop and think. He said, "I was trying to be so good today and my card was still on green and they moved it straight to white and I didn't even get to move it to light green" This is where I have to question whether the system is working. I know that the outcome of Alden and the other boys actions could have been extremely harmful but were the actions themselves that bad? Let's consider, the boys (in their minds) were simply playing with a string of flags. They probably didn't even know what it was attached to much less that if they pulled it a speaker would fall. Should the boys have gone straight to white or should they have gone to light green first? I don't know what to think but I do know that I am tired of having to worry about Alden getting white reminders because I think each one is a blow to the kid's self-esteem since once again "I wasn't good enough today". So if anyone else has any suggestions PLEASE let me know!